When do you feel hurt?

When friends or family disregard your feelings?
When people around you misunderstand you?
When others take you for granted and dun show any appreciation for your efforts?

I think these are common hurt factors for most of us. On wat basis then, do we deem that the above scenarios are true?

I would think through our own validation, own perception and own assumption. It is very natural to think of your own feelings first, before taking a step back to analyse the situation calmly.

Well, I have been feeling hurt, cos' one of my BFF suddenly decided to take a long leave of absence and go MIA.

My dear fren, the last time we spoke was 6 Jun 2009. I remember it so clearly cos' I had finished my driving lessons that day, and I called you up on my way home. Amazingly, you picked up the call. I was rattling on in my usual style, but you seemed preoccupied. When I asked you what you were doing, you told me you were playing this online RPG game that I wouldn't be interested in.

Eventually, I decided to put down the phone cos' the conversation was really more one-sided on my part, and on top of that, it was way too noisy in the train.
And that was the last I heard from you...

It's been a whole month. Last weekend, Timothy tried to get you to join us for dinner, and again, no response from you.

From speaking on the phone almost every other day, meeting regularly for dinner and coffee, we have relegated to silence.

Am I being childish by feeling resentful towards you?
Am I being selfish by blaming you for doing stuff that you are interested in and I am not?
Am I being inconsiderate, or is it your total disregard for my feelings that leaves me hurt?

I honestly dunno.

I know you are just a phone call away, but my pride keeps me from calling. I presume that you will not answer, or if you answer, you will sound preoccupied, and I will feel lousy again, for feeling like I have interrupted you.

But then again, since when have I been able to foretell the future?

At the same time, my insecurities take over, and I question myself if I have offended you or let you down in some way, and that is why you have decided to distance yourself from our friendship?

And, I remind myself constantly that this is not the first time you have been so obsessed with online gaming. This is also not the first time it's been so difficult to get hold of you.

Maybe cos' it's not the first time, that's why I'm feeling especially hurt this time.